Mommy and Daddy love you so much. This world is so scary, there is so much hurt that I can't protect you from. I wish I could, but it's up to you to protect yourself. I hope you always know that I'll be here to boost you up if you need me. I will always hold your hand for as long as I can, but I can't always go into the dark with you. I promise I will be waiting for you to come back from whatever wanderings you may have. I just want you to take some things with you.These are more of general Jr. High lessons. You are so, so beautiful. You are beautiful inside and out. I know that you probably won't have the perfect butt, I'm sorry that's my fault. Boys probably won't be talking about your rocking bod, or whatever kids say. But you are beautiful. You are a beautiful, amazing person, and that one special person will think that you are perfect. Don't let anyone ever bully you into thinking that you're not beautiful, because they are liars and they don't know you.
You're so brilliant. Everyone can already see how smart you are. You will do amazing things; I'm so excited to see what you will do with your life. All my life I've had this feeling that I have something important to do. My seminary teachers would tell me that there was something important that I was going to do to change the world. And little girl, I'm so sure that it's you. Nothing could have stopped you from coming into this world. You are not an accident, don't you ever let anybody tell you that. Your Heavenly Father sent you here to do something with all your smarts. Always remember how brilliant you are and never stop pursuing your education.
Lesson 1: You are ALWAYS better than peer pressure. People are going to try to convince you that you need to try some drug "at least once." Sweetie, you do not need to try anything "at least once." I never tried anything and my life is just fine. I never partied and I wasn't a social outcast. Hold strong to your convictions and don't submit to peer pressure, it's not even worth it. I watched too many people get tickets, their licenses taken away and lose friends over things that "you have to try at least once."
Lesson 2: You are worth sobriety. Yes, I was that jerk who did break up with my boyfriend when he started smoking pot. Because you're worth it. Don't settle for less.
Lesson 3: If someone hurts you, don't make it worse by hurting yourself. I could've struggled with it more, but I got lucky. I was able to stop after too long, but I do have those marks on my wrists. My eraser burns are still healing. Whatever it is that kids do to hurt themselves, please don't ever put yourself through that pain.
Lesson 4: You are not a "bitch." You're not anything that anyone ever calls you. Do not stand for disrespect like that. Don't give those people the time of day, they're not even worth it. Just walk away from them, don't even waste your breath on them. You are a beautiful Princess, the Daughter of a King. Don't let anyone convince you that you're anything less.
Lesson 5: This is the part that really gets hard. You don't ever deserve abuse, not ever. You can come to me, I will help you and I understand. Please don't stay quiet, don't pretend that everything is okay. I have been there in every sense of the word. Emotionally, mentally, physically and sexually; I know what abuse feels like. Don't ever allow anyone to lay their hands on you and hurt you. Don't ever allow anyone to beat you down with their words. Don't ever let anyone drag your emotions through the mud. You don't ever deserve to be treated that way.
Please, please don't ever let someone take something from you. It's so scary, I know that it's paralyzing. I know that you can't always vocalize the word "no." But please fight back. Don't ever let it go on for months. I know that pain and I don't ever want you to feel that. I don't ever want you to feel helpless. I don't ever want you to feel like you don't have any control, that you don't have a choice. You're so strong. You can fight back. You can say no. And you don't have to suffer through abuse for months.
Real love doesn't hurt. Real love doesn't leave you waiting around for the text or call that it finally has time for you. Real love never renders you to sleeplessness or a loss for appetite. Real love doesn't ask you to change. That is not love, it is simply abuse.
Real love is sacrifice. Real love is compromise. Real love makes you smile. Mommy and Daddy will always love you no matter what. But you will have struggles. You will hurt. You will make mistakes, and you will even fail. And I can't stop you. I can't protect you. Sometimes I won't be able to pick you up when you've fallen down.
But I promise that we still love you so much.
You will be given trials throughout your life. But you can handle them, I know you can. You are so strong. You are so brave. You are so smart. You are so beautiful. And one day someone will come along and love you for all your flaws, all your mistakes, all your weaknesses. And they will make you stronger, they will balance you out.
But until then, you have so much to learn. Life is hard, and sometimes it doesn't feel like it's fair. But I promise you can do it.
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